Summer is officially here, WOO HOO! I love the summer but around September I am ready for some cool breezes in our southern Louisiana neck of the woods. This month I am focusing on the word “love” as part of my Devotion 2018. What a great word but sometimes I tend to use it rather loosely in describing my feelings about a particular mood, event, or activity. For example, when I wrote the second sentence, I used the word “love” to show how much I care for summer. Do I truly LOVE summer?
This month I will explore the different types of love which are referenced in the bible; eros, phileo, storge, and agape *. In honor of our marriage, thirteen years ago this month, I have decided to start with eros. Happy Anniversary Randy!
As defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary “Eros is named after the Greek god of erotic love and conceived by Plato as a fundamental creative impulse having a sensual element: erotic love or desire”.**
“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper as his complement’.”-Genesis 2:18***
Speaking on behalf of my own experiences, I am so thankful for God’s design for this type of love. I LOVE the fact I can look at my husband, my heart flutters and my cheeks flush because I am physically attracted to him. God longs for us to experience this level of intimacy in a marriage where we are committed to each other. There are definitely ups and downs in a marriage, but if we focus on one another’s needs instead of our own, the marriage is enhanced by the unselfish acts of one another.
“Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and one of mind.”-Philippians 2:2***
I have discovered in lifting up my husband EVERY DAY in prayer, asking for the blessings to be given to him, I also receive the blessings. I want the best for him and as his supportive partner, I lift him and his needs up before mine every chance I get. Over time I have learned to appreciate his awesome qualities and not dwell on his irritating habits or opinions (Yes, I know, I have habits and opinions indeed!) This is the man who I will spend the rest of my life with and I want to fall in love with him every day.
When some of those habits and opinions of Randy’s make an appearance, I take it to God in prayer and I ask Him to change ME, not focus on changing Randy. Change my heart and my view and see it from Randy’s perspective. Some opinions take more prayer than others but God is working on me to change my viewpoint.
“Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves”.-Romans 12:10***
An integral part of passion and intimacy in our relationship is the commitment Randy and I have to our marriage. I am not saying our marriage is perfect, but we believe God brought us together and look to Him in all circumstances in our lives; the good, the bad, and the ugly. We put God in our marriage to guide us through our union forever until death do us part. We trust in God and we trust each other.
“Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing in value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life”.-Proverbs 31:11-12***
God designed this type of love for husbands and wives to interact in an experience of the heart, mind, body, and soul with each other. Yes, there is sex (I hear my children groaning right now) but this is only a part of the erotic love in a marriage. The complete recipe calls for the combination of desire, commitment, engagement, communication, and selflessness. I look forward to celebrating our eros love for years to come, Randy!
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate”.-Matthew 19:6***
**The Holy Bible, New International Version Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society