“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs”.-1 Corinthians 13:4-5*
Can I be real? I don’t have a best friend.
Am I alone here?
If I had to label someone my best friend it would be my husband and my family. Please don’t feel sorry for me because I do have friends. People I love and I would do anything to help them if they were in need. I would consider all the individuals my inner circle allies as I love them for their grace, humor, reliance, and support.
This type of love is known as phileo love. It comes from the Greek word “philia” or “philos” which means friendship and dear. It also means a friendly feeling toward another. This type of love refers to brotherly love or close friendship.** I feel this way about my inner circle peeps.
What defines friendship to me is someone who knows the real me (transparency) and still wants to maintain a relationship with me. I also feel the same way about them. I have several people in my life which fit this description and consider them my friends. I truly don’t have one person favored over any of the others.
My friends are forgiving of me when I goof up and I can reciprocate forgiveness if needed. These same friends can call me out when necessary and I will do the same for them. The most comforting notion is my friends are dependable when I need them. I want to deliver the same response to them when they need me.
Another interesting tidbit about my friends is sometimes they are with me in a season for a reason. There have been people who have entered my life with a bang and after a period of time, they have slowly disappeared like a vapor. I believe God brought us together for a specific cause and when the resolution was complete, it was time for us to move in our different directions. I totally accept this truth and am content with the wonderful memories we made and try to keep in touch (kudos for social media!).
It is kind of cool how God made us relational beings and created different type of kinships for us to experience. I am so thankful for feeling free to have a multitude of friends and not worry or be envious if I am not considered someone’s best friend. I would hope a pal of mine knows they could rely on me to listen, be a confidant, ask a favor, or ask me to pray for them. God has helped me broaden my friend base and blessed me with a diverse crowd of people who have opened my eyes to different thoughts, opinions, and cultures. It gives me the opportunity to learn more about my spiritual gifts and how He uses me to bless others. As mentioned in 1 Corinthians chapter 13, the scripture talks of the truth about love. To be patient and kind and to put others feelings and needs before our own. When we love others we should honor them and not keep score of ways they may have wronged us. This this is what I want my circle to do for me. And this my friends, is why I love you.
*The Holy Bible, New International Version Copyright 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society